I asked my boys if they knew what autism was today. They didn’t, but they’d heard of it.
I explained it is technically a ‘label’. And then changed tact…
The story begins
‘Well boys, you know I was drawn to people with what is called Autism, back when I was your age (thanks to The Babysitter’s Club!). I read about a girl who could play incredible piano music from ‘ear’ and memory. Who does this sound like!?’.
They both replied, ‘Hayden!’.
[He recently came home and started playing a famous guitar riff on the piano. I asked him ‘where did you learn that?’. And he said ‘I don’t know’. I asked again ‘but where did you learn that? Like from who?’.
My husband and I were both intrigued by this point.
He then said ‘Billy played it on his guitar at school’. We all looked at each other with a pause… My husband and I still confused. So Hayden continued, ‘so I looked at what he was doing on the guitar and then came home and just worked it out’….!?]
I continued, ‘and this girl with autism could tell you what day of the week any date fell on, like “what was the day of the 3rd December 2010?”, she had such a good memory. Who does that sound like?’.
They both replied, ‘Hayden!!’.
[Hayden knows the numbers of anything, including all hundreds of the Woolworths animal cards…. Without trying].
It was all sounding so positive so far to them.
And it was all positive as they were the amazing strengths I saw when reading about this girl with autism.
To me, it didn’t stand out so much that she was blind and lived in her own world, with no eye contact, no play skills or social skills. Nor that she had only a few interests.
The negative side
So then I had to explain to my boys…
‘These type of people have such strengths, almost unbelievable to us more ‘typical’ ones. But they also don’t fit in as much as other people here on Earth. And the medical world decided these people needed to have a label. So that everyone knew when they came across someone with certain characteristics, what they’d be like.
And they picked the characteristics that were a problem, not their strengths.
The positive diagnosis
So if I made a criteria for autism, I would have it as:
- Sensitive child, in many ways
- Not here to fit in, like the other sheep
- Here to do things differently so humanity can change its outdated ways
- Amazing memory that is useful in so many ways
- They don’t do things that they don’t want to/aren’t aligned with (Eg. Hugging people for the sake of it, going to places that are terrible for their sensory systems)
- They don’t talk for the sake of talking
- They can take in a huge amount of information
- Use their imagination and creativity and other skills in amazing ways
The negative diagnosis
BUT! The medical world has created criteria that only look at the weaknesses of these types of people, like :
- They don’t talk like others
- They don’t interact with everyone how we think they should
- They spend too much time on one interest’
They both said ‘oh’.
‘And do you know,’ I continued, ‘when you were 3 Hayden, we could have taken you to the doctor and they would have said “Yes he has Asperger’s” and also what’s called ADHD? You weren’t able to hear out a sentence of mine and didn’t sit and do anything functional, let alone your rough behaviour…
But that’s when THANK GOODNESS my intuition stepped in and said to Daddy, “we are not getting him a label and neither medication”. Because I knew you were so clever.
Your memory proved it, you were quick at learning and you were super aware of your environment.
So instead, we went to a psychologist, Tamara, who said to Mummy “yes he is gifted”. That’s the word they use in the school system and a little bit with the medical system when they can see you are very clever.
By this stage, the boys were smiling, Hayden beaming. And I finally realised what a momentous thing I have done, to say no to a label and medication.
What about the issues?
Of course, many would say, “but what about his autism and his ADHD? You can’t just pretend it’s not there”.
Well no. Instead we looked into foods. We used kinesiology to work out the exact right foods that made Hayden’s body strong and took out the rest. The ‘Asperger’s’ and ‘ADHD’ dropped away like that.
We then looked into toxins. We hit ‘delete’ on the whole lot. Hayden came out of his brainfog and became a vibrant version of the previous boy that looked like his future was doomed.
And then, as I grew as a mother and was able to look at the most difficult elephant in the room, we looked at ‘energetics’, the emotions and stress my Hayden was carrying.
A lot from the crazy times of having everyone yelling at him and getting him into trouble for the autism/ADHD phase. Also from the anxiety, frustration, dread, worry and control my husband and I had to release, when dealing with a stressful child. And more…
I continued on with the boys, ‘What most people don’t know, like we do, is that you can CHANGE the negative characteristics of a child with any label. Like we did. We looked into the root cause. The foods, the toxins and the emotions.
Most people who are still linked in ONLY with the medical and school system, just don’t know. They get told to go to the doctor, or other people, and the doctor just sees “there is something wrong with this child. They don’t fit in like they should”. Do you know what they do?”
Both boys were still listening, ‘no?’.
It gets worse
‘They tell the mum to give their child some medication. Like a drug. Which makes the child seem to fit in here on Earth better.’
‘Whaat?’, said Hayden, proving to me how crazy this is when even children can see the craziness!
‘Yes they say “give them this drug”. Can you imagine your body and brain if we had left you on the gluten, dairy, sugar, preservatives etc AND THEN gave you a drug every day!?!!?!’.
The look in Hayden’s eyes said everything. It is CRAZY. And it has to stop.
These sensitive and awakened souls are incarnating here and when they don’t fit in to what ‘the systems’ expect, they are given a label pointing out their weaknesses and then drugged if they’re unlucky too.
And their mothers are immediately disempowered.
The important thing for mothers to know
I said to my boys, ‘what most people also don’t know, like we do, is that some of these precious souls are coming into the world not having had a past life here on Earth before. They are the new children.
Like you both are. They have chosen to come here to shake up our world for the better. They are here to push our buttons, so we all have to give up control on how we think things should be here.
So like Hayden, if you had never given me SUCH grief with your behaviour and had such health issues, I would never have realised how much we are all living under a brainfog eating foods we just can’t tolerate and dulling our brains with all the toxins. Let alone not reaching our potential, just managing all of the stresses that are caught in our body.’
The new children are all different.
Some are more ‘star children’ who really probably have never been here on Earth (imagine that!) and might fit somewhere on the autism spectrum if their brain is affected with all of the toxins mentioned above. But they have specific missions to fulfil, to help humanity and Earth shift through this chaotic time.
Some children have been described more as ‘crystal’ or ‘rainbow children’. These children are extremely sensitive too and carry some amazing gifts.
The new children:
- Are very sensitive physically. They cannot handle chemicals, pesticides or other manmade toxins. They can struggle with lights, sounds, temperature, textures etc.
- Can be very sensitive emotionally. They absorb just the whiff of someone else’s emotions and stresses. They can struggle to manage day-to-day life with the distraction of this emotional energy clouding them.
- Certainly have food intolerances. They generally don’t handle gluten and dairy, let alone GMO foods such as soy and corn. They may even refuse meat. They require clean and simple foods.
- Are very ‘aware’, perceptive and onto it. Of course, this can be overseen when a child already has a brainfog though.
- Don’t respect ‘authority’. They know they are worthy and won’t just follow the crowd. They are questioners.
- Typically look gorgeous!! Attractive large eyes and are magnetising (when they’re not in mega-meltdown mode from struggling being in their sensitive bodies!).
- May have gifts such as
- quick learning & love to learn
- very coordinated and great reflexes
- excellent memory
- very empathic and kind-hearted
- may see angels/passed loved ones/other energies
- can talk about past lives and why they are here
- other gifts we are probably not even noticing, but will be crucial for our future here on Earth
- Are showing up with health and development issues such as:
- Low immunity
- Issues with skin, sleep, behaviour, digestion
- Asthma, ear infections, tonsillitis etc
- lip/tongue ties and other midline defects
- disabilities – global developmental delay, autism, ADHD and even syndromes
It can all come back in an instant
You see, Hayden has had slip ups with food since we’ve ‘cleaned him up’. Immediately, the autism/ADHD cloud rears its head for exactly 4 weeks. Well-meaning people, who haven’t heard of the golden keys to helping our children, have suggested Hayden needs medication.
And after years of getting to know how to help my son, I can stand in my power as a mother and say it’s a definite no.
Hayden still has:
- distinct interests
- trouble switching easily to ‘someone else’s shoes’
- difficulty with change
Some see this as good enough Asperger’s. And I have questioned myself, ‘does my child need a diagnosis? Is there something ‘wrong’ with him?’.
But then I remember, unnecessary diagnoses are part of the medical and schooling systems. But they are not part of mine or my family’s. To me, labels focusing on weaknesses or just plain ‘differences’ are limiting. And medications are distracting parents from looking into proactive solutions to their childrens’ health and development ‘opportunities’.
And so amazing one, I encourage you to stand in your power as a mother and question it all too. Question it all like an indigo child. I am one and you might be too. But that’s another story.
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